| |
|
|
|
|
| |
How did you
first learn about sex?
|
|
I started masturbating
compulsively after I got sexually abused when I was really little. I never
really connected the abuse or masturbation to sex until a lot later, though
I think I knew very early that penises can fit in vaginas. I learned most
about sex by watching people "have sex" in popular movies, and
from a friend whose older sister told her about it. Until my high school
sex ed course, I used to think that making out could make a girl pregnant.
When I was in high school, my mom gave me a copy of "Our Bodies,
Our Selves," and that book really helped me sort things out.
|
|
| |
Do you feel
the information you were given was adequate?
|
|
No way. It
made no mention of important topics like oral sex or anal sex. I guess
it gave the basics and was probably better than some courses, but "sex
education" was more like a "human anatomy and pregnancy"
course than one about responsibly relating to one's own sexuality.
|
|
| |
What do you
think of the quality of sex education today?
|
|
I don't know
much about it. Any course than emphasizes abstinence by not giving information
about the details of sexuality seems destined to failure.
|
|
| |
Do you feel
that the media's obsession with sex leaves nothing left for parents
to teach their kids?
|
|
No. The media
obsession is, in a way, a form of sexual abuse. It's like little kids
are exposed to disrespectful porn just by watching network television.
Parents need to offer facts and also teach their kids that sex is sacred
and that our bodies are not merely sex objects.
|
|
| |
Do you think
that sexuality education should be treated differently for girls than
it is for boys?
|
|
No, I think
everyone needs to know both sides of the story.
|
|
| |
Does the
advertising of "women's sanitary products" on TV bother you?
|
|
Not really,
except that the products are wasteful and would best be replaced by reuseable
forms of blood catchers.
|
|
| |
How early,
is too early to learn about sex?
|
|
I'm not sure.
Little kids are so bombarded with ideas of sex right from the beginning
of awareness, age 4 - 6, that it seems important to help them reject the
stereotyping. I guess age 8 would be a fair average age to begin with
more heavy duty facts of life kind of stuff, younger if there was proof
that a child's peers are getting sexually active even earlier (!).
|
|
| |
If you knew
then what you know now, what would you do differently?
|
|
I would tell
someone that the neighbors were molesting me and threatened to kill me
if I told anyone and told me I was a dirty, bad person, and that I believed
them!
|
|
| |
If you had
a teenage daughter and there was a book available which contained graphic
information about female sexuality, orgasm, masturbation techniques -
designed to teach them everything about their sexuality - while recommending
the delaying experimentation with penetrative sex until of emotional maturity
(and legal age) - would you let her read it? (please give reasons why)
|
|
Yes. I'd rather
she learn from an authoritative source than from television, her friends,
or elsewhere. It would also help her understand the risks and consequences
of early sexual activity, which might not be taken seriously if described
by a person or book that tried to hide other aspects of sexual reality
from her.
|
|
| |
How did
you first hear about exotic sexual practices such as fetishism and group
sex?
|
|
In jokes that
friends, parents, and schoolmates made. On television comedy shows.
|
|
| |
Do you feel
that the increasingly mainstream reference to these things is a good thing?
(ie: Threesomes and guy's facination with Lesbianism being a standard
punch line on sitcoms these days).
|
|
I'm not sure.
I think it's awesome that having gay people or transsexuals on a t.v.
show is no longer a big deal. But it's sort of depressing to see how television
enlarges its sphere of exploitation by increasing the amount of material
it has to exploit. That's vague, I realize. I can't explain it any better
now.
|
|
