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The first
thing I remember being told about the vagina was...
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....what it was for -- everything from puberty to menstruation to sex to conception to birth. My dad was a biology teacher at the time and gave me the whole story when I was five years old. It was all very clinical and very honest. He didn't hold back on any advanced terminology or the details related to bodily fluids. I'm fairly certain I understood what he was talking about (at least . I like to think I did).
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When my friends
and I first talked about vaginas...
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. it was all very crude. I was perhaps ten or eleven at the time and I recall being in the school playground after lunch. We had just finished enacting an episode of The A-Team , when one of my classmates said, I make sex with girls. Immediately, I screamed, You don t make sex stupid. You have sex ! The only reason I knew that is because my father corrected me on the same idiomatic error a few weeks prior. From there, the conversation descended. In an effort to prove how manly they were, my classmates began to make wild boasts about touching and sticking their penises in vaginas. Some even went so far as to claim they d been responsible for impregnation. The interesting thing was to note that those that spoke about it knew the least and the quiet ones knew the most about the female anatomy. Unfortunately, those who boasted were picking on my friends and chanting, You re a virgin! You re a virgin!, so I had to use my new-found knowledge and rant, Do you know what a uterus is?! Do you know what ova are?! That shut them up. Even at that early age, vaginal interaction was apparently a measure of the male social heirarchy. We are animals after all....
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The first time
I heard of menstruation, I thought...
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. How does it stop?! My parents had taken me to see Agnes of God around that time. The stigmata freaked me out and I made a connection to menstruation.
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The first time
I saw/touched a vagina...
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. I took baths with my sister when I was really young. The first time I touched one was when my cousin and I (we were 5 or 6) had gotten back from the beach and were changing out of our bathing suits. I m not sure what inspired us to do so. We were young, it was purely innocent and rather gross. We pretty much just touched each other s genatalia with one finger and ran away screaming.
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Since then
my perception/experience of vaginas (changed/hasn't changed)...
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. for the better. It s not gross anymore. I ve experienced many and am always fascinated by the countless permutations of tastes, smells, shapes and pubic hair grooming. I appreciate experiencing them through my sense of touch most of all. The vagina is not my ultimate goal when I m with a woman as I ve learned there s so much anatomy to cover that can be equally pleasurable.
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What I would
want my daughter to know about her vagina...
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....Everything. I want her to be educated. I want her to know how her body works, how important she is and what miraculous things her body can do. In my mind, if she's educated, she'll feel empowered to choose how to express her sexuality and be better able to handle the darker aspects of how our society and specific individuals portray and treat sex and women.
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Usually, I call a vagina
a...
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. Pussy. I m a purist. I keep it to a minimum, but I use the more vulgar terminology (cunt, twat, etc ) when referring to people I don t like.
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This conversation
makes me think...
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. Is there a similar forum for men? Is it necessary? Would it have the same impact?
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