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virginity story 13
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what does "losing
your virginity" mean to you? - define the term, and then tell us
about what the experience signified for you...
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Pentetrative
intercourse. I had just turned 14, my curiousity was insatiable. I wanted
to be one of the non-virgins, mainly because I wanted acceptance from
my older sister and her peers, who had all lost their virginity at 14.
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what were
your expectations of what the experience would be like prior to losing
your virginity?
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I figured
it would hurt. I had tried inserting a finger and I was so up tight and
ignorant, even my finger felt uncomfortable.
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how old were
you, and was this the age when expected or intended to lose your virginity?
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When the
opportunity came along, I was 14, had a steady boyfriend who was 16.
It felt like the cool thing to do.
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what did
it feel like? was there blood? did your partner know it was your first
time and did you talk about it before?
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It hurt,
but sort of romantic. No blood, I had slipped and fell on the bar of
my bike when I was about 10, and I reckon my hymen would have ruptured
then. My partner knew. I hadn't begun menstruation yet, so our discussions
included my assuring him I wouldn't fall pregnant. I was only half way
through puberty. Afterwards we held each other and fooled around a bit
more, and I found myself becoming aroused, but I wasn't game to do it
again - however, it occured to me at that point that more foreplay might
have helped things along. I didn't have sex again for three years - it
was like being a virgin again, even more painful actually - but there
was more genuine love attached to it and it was one of the most beautiful
moments of my young life.
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what did
your mother, family, friends tell you about losing your virginity...
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Mother
just said "don't do it". She had no idea about sexuality,
even after six children. I went on the pill at 17 and all she said to
me was "don't use it as an excuse to sleep with everyone who
asks you".
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what would/did you tell
your daughter about losing her virginity...
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No daughters, but I
have told my son that he is not to even consider intercourse with a girl
younger than 16 and that it is to be entirely her choice.
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this conversation
makes me think...
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Women's stories of
losing their virginity, would undoubtedly be more idealistic - and encompass
more disappointment and regret than male stories, who all probably look
back on their first time as WOO HOO.
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