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virginity story 24
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what does "losing
your virginity" mean to you? - define the term, and then tell us
about what the experience signified for you...
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this
comes from a man so guess it may be different for women
but to me losing ones' virginity is when you have full
penetrative sex with someone of the opposite sex.
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what were
your expectations of what the experience would be like prior to losing
your virginity?
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this
comes from a man so guess it may be different for women
but to me losing ones' virginity is when you have full
penetrative sex with someone of the opposite sex.
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how old were
you, and was this the age when expected or intended to lose your virginity?
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I was
24 when I lost my virginity and it was nothing like how
I had hoped or planned. My girlfriend went overseas for 10
months until I could join her. By then our love seemed to
have fallen apart though I wasn't conscious of this until a
month after we got together again. She didn't feel so warm or
close to me as I was to her. We were together 6 weeks and I
could feel a definite chill in the relationship. My
girlfriend often spoke to the wife in quiet tones stopping as
I came close to the room. I thought there was something wrong
but couldn't place what the problem was. It was November and
the people (her cousin) we were staying with went out for the
evening for 4 hours leaving us to re-establish our
relationship, I think. Or maybe it was coincidence. For a
time we sat on the settee talking and kissing and then she
took my hand and led me to her bedroom. I remember thinking,
why, but she continued to kiss me and then she lay on the bed
pulling her pants down and encouraging me to lie on top. I
looked at her nakedness and the spread of hair around her
legs and thought perhaps this might improve our relationship.
Back to how we were. I pulled my trousers down and lay on top
expecting us just to do that while we kissed. Being close. It
was while kissing her that I felt her hand move to my penis
and guide it into her. I was unhappy doing this and decided I
should take some form of precaution so got up to collect a
condom from my room. I came back and put it on in front of
her and climbed back on top with her guiding my penis into
her vagina. I think at that moment I sensed she wasn't a
virgin and she had had sexual experience. When I didn't know.
It might have been before she came overseas as she had been
dumped by her boyfriend before I met her on a date. (We
worked together.) There was no foreplay, no arousal and no
real love. I was kissing hard but it wasn't coming back the
same. In fact I wasn't even fully aroused. We had intercourse
of sorts but I knew this wasn't the pleasure I wanted to
experience, especially the first time. I did eventualy come
but it wasn't the earth shattering experience I expected.
Worse, was after climaxing I withdrew leaving the condom
inside her. From that moment I think I believe our
relationship possibly died, or maybe it was dead anyway. Two
weeks later I was asked to leave the home as she didn't want
me anymore, saying maybe after Christmas she might get in
touch. A great put down. I suspected that she wasn't a virgin
and I learned later that she may have had a relationship with
someone she met and worked with at a holiday camp during the
10 months. I heard some 12-18 months later they married and
had 2 children. I think my night of 'passion' was really a
goodbye kiss. A strange one considering I had waited and
looked forward to meeting my girlfriend and carrying on where
we had left off but seems she had moved on in the meantime.
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what did
it feel like? was there blood? did your partner know it was your first
time and did you talk about it before?
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there
was no blood that I saw or know of but we did have a
'leaking' of fluid. Not sure if it was mine or hers but it
left a tell tale mark on the bedspread which was rather
embarrasing. I was of the thought that perhaps my girlfriend
was not a virgin. She never told me and I wouldn't have
minded either way if she had said something.
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what did
your mother, family, friends tell you about losing your virginity...
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nothing
that I remember but it may have been mentioned by my
father at some stage.
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what would/did you tell
your daughter about losing her virginity...
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I have no children.
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this conversation
makes me think...
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I would want
to have a fresh start at age 18 and make up for
lost time
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