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virginity story 41
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what does "losing
your virginity" mean to you? - define the term, and then tell us
about what the experience signified for you...
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It meant
actually having sex with a guy, going "all the way" as my friends
always put it. Thinking that now I would be all grown up and suddenly
be a woman.When
the penis enters the vagina
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what were
your expectations of what the experience would be like prior to losing
your virginity?
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I just
knew it was going to hurt, I had been told this as a measure, a scare
tactic I suppose from my mother. So of course I was not too keen on the
idea of blood or anything else that might freak me out.Of course, I was
told that girls who slept around always got STDS and or pregnant.
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how old were
you, and was this the age when expected or intended to lose your virginity?
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I was
seventeen, a junior in highschool and I thought I would be about this
age. My friends all had done it with their boy friends and I would always
just smile and act like I knew what the hell they were talking about.
I expect to be in my 18-20s. I lost it at 16 years old.
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what did
it feel like? was there blood? did your partner know it was your first
time and did you talk about it before?
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Well,
it actually felt good, to be close and to be so intimate with another
person. It was almost like this weight was suddenly lifted from me. I
felt I was the last girl on the planet to lose her virginity. I know
that sounds crazy! I found out later that a few of my girlfriends hadn't
actually even had sex yet, I suppose girls lie about it too. It was a
little uncomfortable at first, no blood, thank GOD, and he had know Idea
i was a virgin.I knew he wasn't and the converstion about me never came
up. He was gentle and loving and I was very relieved it felt so right.
Problem number one came about 6weeks later when I found out I was pregnant.
I could not believe it, how the hell could this happen to me? I just
was not ready for that. We used a condom, but obviously it didn't work
for me. I am still with this person, happily married, (well sometimes:)
But it goes to show that if you think you are ready to have sex, it should
be with a person you are in love with and have a relationship with, not
just someone to sleep with.
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what did
your mother, family, friends tell you about losing your virginity...
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One
of my friends called me the "day after" she lost her virgintiy,
at some party with some guy she barely knew. They had been drinking and
she just decided to go with the flow and had sex. She said it was dirty
and awful, and even though she was in pain and he knew it,and there was
blood and he knew it, he just kept on going, with total disregard for
her. She even told him this was her first time, and he told her not to
worrie and he knew how to make her feel good. YEAH RIGHT. She was trumatized
by the whole thing. I felt very sad, and wanted to go find this guy and
kick his ass! He took her virginity and made this whole act something
horrific.
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what would/did you tell
your daughter about losing her virginity...
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WAIT WAIT WAIT, until
you are responsible enough to deal with the consequences of having sex.
Ask yourself, if I were to get pregnant, would he stay with you and love
you and be in a lasting relationship. Or support your decision(s)on what
ever you chose to do? I got lucky, we were young and stupid, all because
I thought my viringity was something I needed to "get rid of" changed
the course of my entire life. We decided to spend the rest of our lives
together. Now my daughter who is 15, is faced with the same "first
time" issues.One myth I can bust for her, YES YOU CAN GET PREGNANT
YOUR VERY FIRST TIME.
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this conversation
makes me think...
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What was I thinking?
The "it will never happen to me" attitude was quickly proven
wrong.
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