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virginity story 51
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what does "losing
your virginity" mean to you? - define the term, and then tell us
about what the experience signified for you...
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"Losing
my virginity" = having sexual intercourse for the first time. Sexual
intercourse, however, is more difficult to define. For us lesbians, sex
is different things to different people - could be oral sex, penetration
using digits, penetration using toys, etc etc.
Losing my virginity not only meant that I was no longer one of the very
few virgins on campus, but it also confirmed for me that I really WAS
a lesbian. (I am not at all saying that one has to have sex in order
to be a lesbian though!)
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what were
your expectations of what the experience would be like prior to losing
your virginity?
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I was
absolutely petrified of losing my virginity to a man. With a girl, though,
I expected it to be sweet, and sensual, and slow, and gentle. As corny
as it sounds, it was everything I expected, and more. It was absolutely
wonderful.
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how old were
you, and was this the age when expected or intended to lose your virginity?
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I
was 18...I never really had an intended age to lose my virginity, but
I was definitely ready.
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what did
it feel like? was there blood? did your partner know it was your first
time and did you talk about it before?
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It felt
amazing. No blood, since the only penetration was her fingers (besides,
I'm pretty sure I broke my hymen years ago with a tampon anyway). She
knew it was my first time, and it was her first time with a girl as well.
We talked about it before, and after too.
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what did
your mother, family, friends tell you about losing your virginity...
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Well,
my family still thinks I'm a virgin, and frankly, I don't think they'd
know what to do if I told them I wasn't. They'd always told me to save
sex for marriage though. Once they were certain that it wasn't going
to end up in a painful situation, my friends were very excited that I'd
lost it, and wanted to know all about it.
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what would/did you tell
your daughter about losing her virginity...
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I would educate her
about EVERYTHING she'd ever want/need to know - sex (both hetero and
otherwise), safer sex methods, etc. etc. I would also advise her not
to have sex until she was absolutely sure that it was what she wanted,
because losing your virginity can be a very emotional thing to lose if
you're not quite ready for it.
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this conversation
makes me think...
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Are there even any other
lesbians that are answering these questionnaires? Because I've read through
a lot of them, and found none...
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